“Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.”
Vivien Green

Relationship stress, work worries, the press of change, the weight of loss. These are normal experiences in the human life.  A most important question:  how to get the most learning and growth from stress? How to handle change, especially the unwelcome variety, so that flexibility and confidence actually increase? What does it take to not only manage stress but to become stress resilient?

In this practice, ideas from systems thinking, neuroscience, and the traditions of mindful living come together to offer directions for making stress a constructive force.

Conduct an informal survey of any group of people and it is likely that relationship issues are the number one source of stress for the majority. Bowen Family Systems theory, based on careful study of how systems operate, and especially how they work under anxious conditions, describes how stress is often based in patterns of relating.  Often it is the patterns of interaction that have evolved to handle stress that become the “accelerants” of more stress.  Commonly, individuals sense this but are unsure of what to do.

The concepts of Bowen Theory provide direction towards handling stress creatively and responsibly.  These concepts can be learned and applied. The learning requires observation and awareness, sometimes in short supply when anxiety is high.  Progress can be supported through biofeedback, neurofeedback, and various practices of mindfulness. All can be helpful in calming the body, quieting the emotionality that accompanies stress, and in allowing clear thinking to emerge.